Stay Weird (In Other Words, ‘Do You’)Online dating sites thrive on individuality—specifically, yours. From goth dating to plus-size, prisoners to gold diggers, these sites revolve around one thing: honesty.In Algorithms, Slater discusses the shift from the “bookend theory” initially used by pioneer sites like (aiming to win over every “book” on the shelf) to the prevailing “niche” dating sites that now dominate the market. Slater contends that it’s partly this trait, the cornerstone of any relationship, that has made the world of online dating so successful. there is bound to be someone in the cloud of faces who’s interested in whatever it is that you’ve got.” 2.Jim Talbott, director of consumer insights at Match.com, also suggests: “Keep your photos fresh, and swap out your primary photo frequently.You look like a new user and people who might have missed you before are more likely to give you a second look.” A final thought from Honey: “Don't be tempted to airbrush your picture or present yourself looking too much better than you do in real life, and give group photos a miss to avoid confusion.” It might feel a little awkward, but dating expert Peter Spalton says it’s a great idea to ask a friend to cast a fresh eye over what you’ve written – and not just to check your spelling.“Set yourself a limit, but keep at it, it’ll be worth the effort,” says Peter.• The 20 most useful dating sites It might feel strange, but, as Honey says, don’t feel that you have to speak to one person at a time.
), we perused the latest manuals and lovingly present this roadmap to the world of e-romance.1.“Be careful what you say about yourself,” says Honey.“Could someone use those details to find you on Linked In, for example?A lot of the outdated dating rules don’t apply, and sending the first message online is actively encouraged if you want to get your profile looked at. “Set aside an amount of time every day and write a handful of tailored introductory messages to new people,” he says.“It’s always obvious when someone is cutting and pasting the same general ‘hi’ message.